MARRIAGE

I recognize that marriage is basically two people running a very small, very chaotic nonprofit… with zero funding… and at least one person who has opinions about the thermostat.

I used to think love was grand gestures and anniversaries and holding hands on beaches. Turns out love is:

• finding your partner’s phone for the 11th time today,

• pretending not to notice when they clean the dishes wrong,

• and making coffee so repeatedly disappointing it becomes a third character in your marriage.

Erin doesn’t want perfection. She wants presence. Attention.

A man who hears her say “I’m fine” and knows that is a code requiring immediate snacks.

Marriage isn’t glamour.

It’s choosing each other on the days you don’t even like yourself.

And thank God —

she keeps choosing me.

Every day, she teaches me how to choose back.

“And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”

   -Colossians 3:14